iloveanj: July 2010

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

nastygal crush

Some news at Nastygal, I like it! I have such a crush on hats these days, I could almost sleep with mine on, haha
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alessandra ambrosio by will davidson for russh magazine august 2010

fall for sure

Here are my keywords for fall 2010. Camel, nude, wide pants, brocade, the new length, all white, grey on grey, shearling, lace, leather, red leather, lurex, velvet and drapes
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solestruck

here are so many great shoes at Solestruck. I wanna buy a pair of beige-brown shoes for fall but I can't decide if I want a pair of wedges or just a regular heel
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I'm looking for a tan colored bag in a bigger size. The dream is the leather hobo bag from Alexander Wang with studs!

Bag Alexander Wang, Jacket Monki, Shoes Jeffrey Campbell, Belt Monki, Ring Asos, Sunglasses House of Sunglasses, Hat Asos

Saturday, July 24, 2010

How do you move forward after the break-up of a long-term relationship?

How do you move forward after the break-up of a long-term relationship?

HeartBrokenDemon: ANSWER

First, it hurts, and it will hurt. Time does dampen the pain, and yes, you do have to confront the pain. Admit to yourself that you're heart-broken, that you never imagined life would be this way. Cry, talk to friends and family, keep talking! If you have faith in God, talk to him. If you don't have faith in God, talk to yourself while on long walks.

Second, grief is a part of what you're feeling. You're grieving dead dreams and dead hopes. That's part of your hurt. So grieve. Feel bad for your loss, feel sorry for yourself. Eventually you'll get sick of it. You'll get tired of feeling like crap, and tired of thinking about how happy your lover must be without you.

Then you can get mad. After you're done feeling like a doormat, you're ready to get over him/her and start enjoying your life again. Talk! Admit all the things that you really didn't like about that person. Think about the crap you don't have to put up with now and the freedom you've regained. You've been set free, you've been given a do-over! Spend time with your friends, do something new, get a friggin hobby!

And then, as difficult as it is: Forgive. Yes, you can do it. It takes time, it takes effort and it will help. Repeat whatever mantra helps. "It wasn't meant to be." "We have different ideals and want different things." Forgive that person for not being perfect, for not being your ever-lasting love. It's okay. You can remember the stuff you did like about that person. Be glad you have good memories, chalk it up to experience, and know you are wiser for having had that relationship. If nothing else, it should have taught you what you want and expect from another person, and maybe next time, you'll remember not to compromise your ideals.

Lastly, you'll hope. Not for the return of your lover, but for the return of love. Maybe the old one, maybe a new one. Accept you cannot force love from another person, but know you have the power to be receptive to it. Hope, hope hope! Life has a way of working out if we don't force it and control it too much. Relax a little and try to remember a couple of things:

All good things take time.

Good things come to those who wait.

Nobody ever said life was easy!

Take life a day at a time, for yesterday is over and tomorrow isn't here. Just live today.

You have not let go of the relationship. You are hanging on for hope. Once you have acknowledged that this relationship is over. You will be able to move on. The longer you deny its over, the longer you will be in pain

Also. Try to avoid them. Keep telling yourself, they not the one you. This realtionship is over! It is over. If one day they knocking down your door begging--its the only way you will even think of them for a minute. Look at Brad and Angelina--Do you want to be Jen in the situation--waiting? hoping?

Thursday, July 22, 2010

truth

The truth that many people never understand, until it is too late, is that the more that you try to avoid suffering, the more you suffer, because smaller and more insignificant things begin to torture you in proportion to your fear of being hurt.

-anj

I'm having a hard time right now.

Everything seems to be piling on and it makes one wonder when it’s all going to stop and I will be able to catch my breath. What bothers me the most is that I am usually the strong one and others depend on me, now I am depending on others to help me with stuff and it’s a shock to the system for me. I am fiercely independent and now that I have to have help it is frustrating. Couple that with the fact that everything just seems to be going the wrong way for me and I am just feeling so far down the rabbit hole. I don’t know where things can go from here, I hope up, but right now I am not so sure.